Although gift giving and receiving is not in the top three stressors of the holidays according to experts, I would suggest that it ranks high in the list. Why? For these 7 reasons:
- We purchase items for persons we know little about.
- We don’t know how much to spend per person or fairly per family.
- We overspend on credit at holiday time and regretfully need to pay later.
- We purchase commercialized items and do not give from the heart.
- We don’t know who to give to.
- Will they appreciate the gift?
- Will the gift go unused or be returned?
And I believe you can write many more reasons for stressing over gift giving and receiving in the holiday season.
So I decided to go to the scientists and review what they had to say.
Society for Personality and Social Psychology. “The psychology of gift-giving and receiving.” ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 22 December 2014.
Their summary states:
“Gift exchanges can reveal how people think about others, what they value and enjoy, and how they build and maintain relationships. Researchers are exploring various aspects of gift-giving and receiving, such as how givers choose gifts, how gifts are used by recipients, and how gifts impact the relationship between givers and receivers.”
The poll they completed on Black Friday indicated that buyers preferred not to buy for the picky person and resorted to purchasing gift cards as an alternative strategy. However, picky persons are more likely to get what they want.
The poll found that 39% of the purchasing was for the picky person and cash is less personable. The gift card recipients more often used it for luxury application then mundane use.
What about personalized gifting? Gift givers love this idea but the recipient is not as fond of it.
This mismatch arises because givers tend to focus on recipients’ stable traits rather than recipients’ multiple, varying wants and needs. “Givers tend to focus on what recipients are like rather than what they would like. This can lead them to gravitate toward gifts that are personalized but not very versatile,” lead researcher Mary Steffel shares.
When this occurs, the gift may go unused. Instead, give a gift that is more likely matched to a recipient’s preferences.
Giving gifts that touch the heart is my philosophy. I give Christmas gifts throughout the year whenever I am touched, or moved to be generous with my time, money, or both. It’s about #shinebright and #livejoy with the LIGHT that is within each of us.
What’s one of the most valuable gifts ~ Give an Experience.
Researchers Cindy Chan and Cassie Mogilner offer simple guidance. “To make your friend, spouse, or family member feel closer to you, give an experience,” Chan says. Experiential gifts produce greater improvements in relationship strength than material gifts, regardless of whether the gift is consumed together.
How would you like to THRIVE instead of SURVIVE this season?
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Week 1 November 19 — 7 Tips to a Stress-Free TRAVEL HOLIDAY
Week 2 November 26 — Holding Space for You – Personal Challenges
Week 3 December 3 — Gift Giving and Receiving
Week 4 December 10 — Surviving the Holiday Parties
Week 5 December 17 — Art of Indulging / Hydration
Week 6 December 24 — You CONTROL: Portion Control / Food Choices
Week 7 January 1 — Setting Intentions / Not Resolutions
Sending you peace, love, and friendship,